Roommate's BF: Gross Habits & Unexpected Attraction
Okay, so, like, I need to get this off my chest because it’s been eating me alive for weeks. I live with my best friend, Sarah, and she started dating this guy, Mark, about two months ago. Initially, I was stoked for her. Mark seemed like a decent dude – held doors open, remembered my name (which is a big deal, tbh), and generally seemed smitten with Sarah. But, guys, let me tell you, the longer they’ve been together, the more… complicated things have become. It’s like he has two completely different sides, and I’m not sure which one is winning.
The Gross Factor
Let's dive into the gross factor first because, honestly, it’s the most pressing issue. Mark is, to put it mildly, a slob. I’m not talking about leaving a sock on the floor – we’re talking full-on biohazard level mess. He leaves dishes in the sink for days, like some sort of science experiment gone wrong. The bathroom… oh god, the bathroom. I won’t go into graphic detail, but let’s just say I’ve considered investing in a hazmat suit every time I need to brush my teeth. And don’t even get me started on the nail clippings situation. I found one in my cereal last week. My. Cereal. I almost hurled. I’ve tried dropping hints, passive-aggressive notes, and even straight-up asking him to clean up after himself, but nothing seems to work. Sarah gets embarrassed and tells him to clean up, but it’s like he forgets five minutes later. Is this a guy thing? Are all boyfriends this oblivious to basic hygiene? Because if so, I’m swearing off men forever. Seriously, the mess is starting to affect my mental health. I can’t relax in my own apartment because I’m constantly on edge, waiting to discover the next unspeakable horror he’s left behind. I love Sarah, but I’m starting to resent her relationship because it’s turning my living space into a garbage dump. Help me, Obi-Wan Kenobi; you’re my only hope.
The Hot Conundrum
Now, for the part that makes this whole situation even more messed up: Mark is also ridiculously, unfairly, infuriatingly hot. Like, textbook definition of attractive. Tall, dark hair, piercing blue eyes, the kind of jawline that could cut glass. He works out, so he’s got that whole sculpted thing going on. And he knows it! He walks around the apartment shirtless sometimes, flexing his biceps while he’s grabbing a beer. It’s like he’s intentionally trying to torture me. And the worst part? He’s actually really charming and funny when he’s not being a total slob. He tells great stories, makes me laugh, and is genuinely interesting to talk to (when he’s not talking with his mouth full of food that he’s about to drop on the floor, naturally). So, yeah, I’m attracted to him. There, I said it. I’m attracted to my roommate’s boyfriend who also happens to be a walking health code violation. I feel like a terrible person for even thinking these things, but I can’t help it! It’s not like I’m planning on making a move on him or anything. I would never do that to Sarah. But the constant push and pull between being disgusted and… well, you know… is driving me insane. Is it possible to be simultaneously repulsed and attracted to someone? Because I think I’m living proof that it is.
The Moral Dilemma
So, here I am, stuck in this bizarre love-hate triangle with my roommate’s boyfriend. I’m constantly battling between wanting to bleach every surface he’s touched and… well, let’s just say wanting something else entirely. I know I need to talk to Sarah about the mess situation, but I’m terrified of making things awkward between us. She’s fiercely protective of Mark, and I don’t want her to think I’m trying to sabotage their relationship. But at the same time, I can’t live like this anymore! My apartment is my sanctuary, and it’s slowly being transformed into a biohazard zone. And what about the… other… feelings? Do I just ignore them and hope they go away? Do I try to analyze them and figure out why I’m attracted to someone who’s so clearly not my type? I’m so confused, guys. I need advice. I need a therapist. I need a hazmat suit and a very strong drink. What would you do in this situation? Am I the only one who’s ever experienced this kind of weird attraction-repulsion dynamic? Please tell me I’m not alone!
Seeking Solutions and Sanity
Okay, deep breaths. I know I’m not the only person to ever be attracted to someone they shouldn't be, or repulsed by someone they are supposed to like. The key here is finding solutions that preserve my sanity and my friendship with Sarah. The first step is definitely a heart-to-heart with Sarah. I need to approach the conversation delicately, focusing on how the mess is affecting my living environment rather than directly attacking Mark’s hygiene habits. Maybe we can come up with a cleaning schedule or designate certain areas as “Mark-free zones” (kidding… mostly). As for the attraction… I think the best course of action is to simply acknowledge it and move on. I can’t control my feelings, but I can control my actions. I’ll focus on the things that repulse me about Mark (there are plenty to choose from) and remind myself that he’s Sarah’s boyfriend, not mine. And maybe, just maybe, I’ll start spending more time out of the apartment. Retail therapy, anyone? This whole situation has been a wild ride, and I’m hoping that by addressing the issues head-on (and maybe investing in some heavy-duty cleaning supplies), I can restore peace and harmony to my living space. Wish me luck, guys. I’m going to need it.
